Sunday, October 22, 2006

Homecoming

Last night was our high schools homecoming dance. We have a senior and a junior this year and they both are dating really sweet girls. At 6 pm last night 16 teenagers showed up here for a group photo event. As I looked at this pretty/handsome bunch of kids it was as though my life flashed before me. It seems like such a short time ago that we were struggling horribly with infertility not knowing if a day like this would ever arrive. Now, in the blink of an eye, I am looking at colleges and working out car payment schedules. I remember many years ago my Mom telling me that the older you get the faster time goes-I was a teenager at the time-and thought she was nuts because time was dragging for me. I wanted my license, I wanted to drink (legally ;), I wanted to fall in love, have kids and the whole white picket fence scenario. Turns out Mom was right once again. It would all happen for me, just not on MY schedule. I thought by this age I would have all my kids either in or finished with college and starting their own lives. Our youngest turned 12 yesterday. All the people I meet that are struggling with infertility, I want to sit them down and tell them that it WILL happen for them too. I truly believe there is a reason for everything that does or doesn't happen to us. I now know that had I not had my miscarriages we never would have thought about adoption and we wouldn't have our oldest son. Without going into a lot of detail, we were meant to be his parents, I will elaborate in a forthcoming post. I just wish I could give a feeling of peace to all of those folks that are struggling right now. It will happen for you, just not on your schedule. It's kind of like that old saying about when you make plans, God laughs.

3 comments:

One Mother's Journey said...

You're absolutly correct - it's just hard to envision that when you life doesn't take you down the road you pictured. It does all work out one way or the other though...

Hope your boys had a better time than my daughter at homecoming. She's WAY over it now... me not so much. LOL

OHN said...

One of the boys had "the best time ever" and the other said "it sucked" Sometimes I think they disagree on things just to get things steamed up around here :)

serenity said...

Thanks for the comments on my blog today, Ohn - I will make sure to follow your story, particularly as J and I are so undecided as to what's next for us. It'll be good to hear the perspective of someone who's been there before...

And you're right, in 12 years I'd like to look back and feel peace that the decisions I made were meant to be. It's just hard to have that perspective when you're in the middle of it, you know?