Thursday, June 24, 2010

I've been busy OKAY??

I know, I know. I even lost a reader. is what I have been up to.

I have lost 32 lbs.

(I will take a short pause while you give me a well deserved standing O)

How you ask? Finally coming to the conclusion that I was really really fat and all of my clothes were too tight, and I was eyeballing the next size up. I had to make a decision and realized that I really was miserable (if you are over your ideal weight but are happy, that's great, this isn't a slam to you....I did this for ME, because I was miserable).

So I worked out a plan for myself and I'll be worked. Most importantly, I feel so much better. I am off a blood pressure med, not groaning when I move from the chair to the refrigerator (yes, I still do frequent the fridge, I just eat 1/2 of my normal portion) and my pants are no longer tight. In fact, I need to get some new ones a couple of sizes smaller. One thing I really NEED to do, is REMOVE my bigger sizes from my house. If they are in my closet, I will always think that I can wear them if I "need" to. My next step is to buy one new item with each paycheck and put one previously worn item in the donation pile. You may not need to do this, but I know myself and I do need to do this. on the menu.

I have been wanting to post this for quite some time, and have re-composed it 10 different ways, but now can't find my draft, so I am gonna wing-it.

If you remember, at the beginning of the year (New Years to be precise) we had a huge issue with S1 being out of control. He was so drunk that BigD had to rescue him from himself, threw the cuffs on him and brought him home. That was also the same week I found out that the skin thingy I had was more than a thingy, that it was cancer. The night BigD brought S1 home he told him during the ride and it totally blew away the kid. I think that was his defining moment....the one where you suddenly realize that your parents won't always be here.

So, that was in January. The first week of March, a family friend was told by one of his friends that he was looking for a young person to work for his new, expanding company. The kid had to be smart (remember S1=freakishly brilliant), honest and willing to work. Without knowing that we had undergone any of the crap in January, this family friend recommended S1 to this corporate wheeler-dealer. S1 had an interview and in mid March accepted a position with the company (full time) while still going to school (full time). To say he was stressed would be an enormous understatement. I was very very worried that he wouldn't be able to handle all the pressure.

Never underestimate the power of happiness when something clicks. S1 not only DID NOT crumble, he flew. He finished the semester with a 3.2, while learning an entirely new career that has nothing to do with his major. Was he tired? Oh yeah. But he wanted this. He knows the windows and doors it can open for him. (I can't tell you the company or get into specifics, I will just say is has to do with Hom.eland Se.curity, cyber crap and assorted other things).

In the meantime......remember the girl that he was crazy about? The one that he has been a "friend" to while she would cry about all the guys that were so rotten to her? The girl that he liked so much that he told me that he told her that he could no longer be her friend, because he liked her in the 'other' way, and not just as a friend. He wanted more. For a few weeks they didn't talk. He was cranky, short tempered and missed her, but he had to cut it clean to move on, and maybe meet someone.

Well, after those couple of weeks she called telling him that she really missed their talks. They met for ice-cream and slowly have become the couple that S1 wanted to be all along. She has been here almost every weekend with him. The best way to explain how I feel about it is that I like the way S1 is when she is around. He is happy, natural (no male chest pounding or bravado) and he laughs.

I think the girl (now to be known as S1GF for S1's girlfriend) is delightful. She is smart (4.4 GPA), funny, has a ton of common sense (not always found in terribly bright people by the way), and the best part......she thinks I am amazing :). Yep....S1 was teasing me about putting me in a home for old people, she smacked him and said if she had anything to say about it, I would never be put in a home. I think I love this girl.

Where it will go is anyone's guess, but for the happiness of my son and the peace she brings him, I hope it goes where he wants it to, wherever that may be. They have run into some interesting issues because of the fact that they are a biracial couple. It amazes me that in 2010 that is still an issue for some people. My own family for instance.

Remember my brother? Yeah. He's still an ass. I had to tell him about S1GF because when he shows up here this summer it would be very likely that he would walk in and say something REALLY stupid and then we would have to kill him, and then I would have to have the carpets cleaned again.

When I told him, his response.....priceless. "What? They run out of white girls in Ohio?". I hung up on him. Yes. I really did. He is such a tasteless moron. It defies me that we have any genetic material in common.

Honestly, when I told S1GF about him and the fact that he will undoubtedly say something obnoxious, she laughed and said "bring it on". Did I mention that I love this girl? Though she did say it wouldn't be fair for her to fight with him as she would be trying to match wits with an unarmed man. So true. So true.

In the middle of all of this life crap, I also had my kitchen redone. Ripped out the old crappy counters (almost 20 years worth of cooking done there) and had some gorgeous granite installed. Photos will come when I get a chance.

So do you forgive me for not being around for a bit? If you find out who the person was that dropped me from their reader list, let them know I am back. I hate feeling unloved.

I have plenty more topics to cover so y'all come back soon.


serenity said...

Holy crap lady, you HAVE been busy. Welcome back. Sounds like things are going well!


*mary* said...

Congratulations on your weight loss, and most of all your determination! I need to do the same.

Glad S1's relationship is working out. And th enew counters! Exciting!

My Aimless Infatuation said...

Sounds like everything is looking up for everyone. Your weightloss....amazing. If anyone else makes a remark about your Son's relationship,try to remember to pity them for their stupidity. Heaven knows "you can't fix stupid". Glad to see you back.

Tina said...

I knew you wouldn't totally forget about us. Now I want to see some pics of you! :)

preppyplayer said...

I am SO glad you are back, happy, safe and SOUND!
YAY YOU! I love the way you write and tell it like it is, fearless.
I am so happy you have gotten healthy, met your goal.
You have to come back to NYC so that I can see the NEW/real you!

Paige said...

I hate it when people quit me too.

Congrats on the weight loss--great work!

Yo-yo Mama said...

My blog name should be "hot potatoe" as I've been dropped so many times.

Screw 'em!

Congrats on the loss of poundage!!

Ina in Alaska said...

Wow there HAS been a lot going on in your world. It all sounds great though (except for your moron brother). I have got to do something about my weight too, it is going UP and I am sick of it. Great for S1 and so happy that he has a wonderful young lady in his life. I look forward to the pictures of the kitchn redo! Welcome back. I did not drop you! xoxo

Gil said...

OMG you HAVE been busy haven't you?! Kudos on the weight loss! (I so need to do that too...) YAY for a kitchen remodel. (Again, I -so- need to get to that too!) Wow for S1 and his GF and the job and circumstances and all of that good mojo. So yeah, we forgive you for being away for a bit. Heaven's knows, it's not like you've been slackin'!

Baylee and Blair's page said...

WOW... you have been one busy little person! I'm so glad you're back and look forward to your hysterical posts!

Hugs - Tiffany

Unknown Mami said...

My head is spinning from so many changes.

I am so proud of you and your weight loss.

I am also thrilled at the changes in your son's life. His girlfriend sounds wonderful.

Anonymous said...

I tried to comment before but it got lost in the ozone I guess. Congrats on the weight loss - YAHOO! Maybe I'll join ya in the smaller pants section.

As for S1 new girlfriend - yay to that as well. Ah, love - it can even conquer asswipes like your brother - and I mean that in the most humble, respectful way.

Navigating The Rapids said...

Wow that's one hell of an update. Did I mention I'm way way jealous of the weight loss. If only I could back away from the burgers and get on the treadmill. Maybe you've inspired me. Congrats.


~jill said...

welcome back

congrats on the weight loss!

woohoo on the new kitchen! can't wait to see pics!

bravo to S1 on all his's good to hear.