Thursday, March 26, 2009

Will you be able to keep this one clean?

Or at least that is what BigD said in a very snarky, shitty way. Needless to say I held my tongue because two of the spawn were in the room, but that comment really landed on a raw nerve. I have intimated here before that he is very "old school", you know, men go to work, women cook, clean, do laundry, raise kids, always look presentable, and anything else circa 1945. He seems to forget that I am also working ~~two jobs~~ just to keep our heads above sea level. The only time he “helps” is when he is pissed and then he is a true joy to have helping me. (Insert very loud sarcastic tone in that last sentence) His idea of cleaning is moving ALL of the furniture AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK to vacuum under everything, this is on top of daily vacuuming -3100 sq.ft of house) using the floor scrubber daily(830 square feet of tile here), never having any laundry in a dirty pile, bathrooms are to be squeaky clean on a daily basis (we have 3), before anyone retires for the night, all blankets used in the evening (none are used by me as I am usually working job #2 and not lounging watching TV), are folded and put away, the windows are always washed (we have 48 of them), all the wood is ALWAYS polished (we have enough wood in this house to personally claim the destruction of at least two forests, sorry, I came to the conservation movement later in life), and well, the list goes on and on. I agree. I would LOVE to have all of the above be true but I have yet to see where it is written that it all has to be done by ME. I have pointed out to him that I WORK and it is hard for me to do all of the above. It goes in one ear and out the other. Today is not a happily married day. Sadly, I have been having more and more of them lately. He reminds me of a saying my mom used to say when I was little…feel free to insert boy where it says girl… There was a little girl, who had a little curl, right in the middle of her forehead. When she was good, she was very very good, when she was bad, she was horrid. (Yes, forehead and horrid do too rhyme!) Anyway, lately BigD has been horrid….and he doesn’t even have a curl! Shit he barely has hair. you like my new fridge?? I decided to get the black because: 1) White would get dirty looking (trust me, with all these males around, and all the digging in the yard, working on cars et cetera it wouldn’t take long for it to get grimey) and BigD would have just one more thing to bitch about . 2) I have been told the stainless is really hard to keep free of smudges (see #1) 3) For once, I wanted to get something that would make me happy. I always cave to what others want and I decided it was time for me to think about me. So there.


*mary* said...

New fridge is awesome! Haha- word verify is "decor," seriously.

eden said...


Awesome! I've never seen a black one before! (Fridge, that is ;)

I love it. And BigDs comment ..... seriously?? Doesn't he know that's worth at least 3 days silent treatment?

I so, so, so relate to your home situation. Except at least our dog is a GIRL!


Suburbia Steph said...

I was beginning to get an anxiety attack reading this! Was he in the military or something?

God bless you, girl! I don't know how you do it (ALL)!

preppyplayer said...

Yikes- is work where you go to relax? Cuz that sounds like way too much cleaning...for one person let alone tow- heck it sounds like a family cleaning day is needed!
When there was seven people in my house and I was doing 14 loads of laundry a week... I think I went on strike every couple of months out of frustration. Resentment and frustration can eat away at you- vent to us, talk to him. ( we know ya love him!)

Oh and the fridge?
As they say in Jersey: Bee-u-tee-ful!
my word verify is glume. No gloom here!

From Here To Maternity said...

I love it, I have fridge envy.

Wait Another Year said...

Looks great. Treat it well and it should last a very long time. If they boys dont' help you maintain it, put a lock and chain on it... or hide the good food elsewhere. Hehe...

Ina J Offret said...

You need to race over to my blog for a dose of happy-ness today!!

Meanwhile, I LOVE your new refrigerator!! It has the perfect amount of food in it right as shown :)

I appreciate your brutal honesty. Lots of truth in this post.

Have a lovely day, dear and, give yourself a break. xo

Crockstar said...

I love your fridge! You go girl!

beagle said...

V. nice!

I got similar comments from my DH when I asked for (and got) a vacuum for xmas.

And yes, C., I DO use it!

(My previous philosphy was that vaccuming with a vacuum that lacks suction is just a waste of time and, the old one varely worked worth a damn, besides, I didn't use to have a small human crawling on the floor then either!)

Men! Hmph!

Somer Love said...

Love the new fridge!!!

Um seriously with that list??? My vote is to have the spawn do it :)

You always crack me up!!.... shit he barely has hair I really did LOL :)

Dodi said...

LOVE the fridge! Love the black - good choice!

Your husband and my dad? Cut from the same cloth. I believe the word "asshatery" applies to such behavior!!